Our journey through infertility, failed adoptions and now parenthood through the miracle of embryo adoption/donation.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009


We can all find things to be thankful for in our lives, but to find things to be thankful for in regards to infertility can be a challenge. No one likes the emptiness infertility leaves in our hearts. No one enjoys the insensitive comments or the timed intercourse. None of jump for joy over yet another pregnancy announcement from the eternally fertile or for a negative pregnancy test.....again. But there are things that we can be thankful for, things that we have learned during this journey, people we have met, things that we have done. Whatever it is let us know what you are thankful for pertaining to infertility. Here is my list:

~Growing closer to my hubby. We have always had a great marriage, but infertility makes us stronger.

~Amazing friends that I have met online, especially my Stepping Stones sisters. Honestly, this whole thing has been worth it just to have met many of you. There are some wonderful people on the net!

~I will be an awesome mom! You don't wait this long and try this hard only to me mediocre. All of us will be fantastic moms! Fertiles will be jealous.

~Faith. I have had to exercise my faith in ways that I never have before. I have learned a lot about myself in the past 11 years and I like who I have become.

~Compassion. As a young woman (heck, I am still young!), I was quick to judge and lacked compassion. Now my heart breaks for every BFN I hear about, every loss, divorce, wayward child, etc. I may not have suffered in the same way that another has but I can empathize in a way that I could not do pre-infertility.

~My pastor. He has been extremely supportive through all of this and I appreciate his thoughtfulness and prayers during all of this.

~My nieces. Both has allowed me to love them and dote on them use some of my "mommy-ness" on them.

I could probably go on all day. At this point in the journey I am ready to get off of this ride and become a mom. I don't like the journey itself, but while on it I plan to learn all that I can and use it to become the best mommy that I can be one day.

So what are you thankful for?


  1. It's true--as much as IF hurts, it has brought my husband and me even closer, made me a better mom now that we've adopted, and made me a more compassionate person overall. Thanks for the reminder that there is a bright side to all this!

    This year, I'm more thankful than I can express for the amazing baby boy we adopted 6 months ago. Happy Thanksgiving!

  2. I am thankful for IF because if not for it, I would not have been adopted by my parents and I would not have adopted my 6 children & my sweet adopted baby growing away in my womb! Thank you Lord for IF!

    PS-DO NOT FORGET TO EAT PINEAPPLE CORE after your transfer :)

  3. I was also thinking just this evening that I am thankful for this IF journey that I'm on. Yes, there is a lot of sadness to it but I've become such a stronger person and had to grow my faith so much more. And it has grown me closer to my hubby and the rest of our families, as well. Most of all I'm thankful for my Savior and for the opportunity He's given us to carry some of these precious lives! Happy Thanksgiving!


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