people feel the need to offer reassurance about something that they have no control over? When we were ttc people would tell us that they "knew" we would one day be parents. Really?? Did God send them a text with this information? A vision? What? And what about those now in their 50's that never had children? Were they sure that they would not be parents? Or did they offer the same false assurances to them as well?
Now that I am facing preeclampsia I am hearing it again. People want to assure me that all will be fine. Honestly, I am choosing to believe that all will be well. But do I know this for certain? Of course not!! Anything can happen and until Maddie is born and safely in my arms those fears will exist. Telling me that you are "sure everything will be fine" is not reassuring! There are too many women out there that thought the same thing and it was not true for them. Things happen!
Some like to tell me that God would not have brought us this far just to take Maddie. Really? Do they honestly believe this? How many times have we seen or heard of the death of a little one? I have been to 2 infant funerals of full term babies and I am sure that their mothers would have loved to have had the assurance that nothing could have gone wrong that late in the game. But it did! I don't claim to understand the reasoning behind God's choices nor do I even agree with them, but they are His choices and He has a reason for them. I am not exempt from them either. My Maddie is His and whatever happens is His choice. I choose to remain optimistic and refuse to worry, but I also need to be cautious and put my trust in Him.
I also find it ironic that this advice has only come from fertiles and have never faced a loss of any kind. Infertiles and those that have faced loss know all too well how things can happen all too well. I wish that people would learn to just say "I am praying for you and Maddie" and leave it at that. Is that really so hard to do??