I have always dreamt about my very first Mother's Day. I would be all smiles and glowing. I would anticipate it like a kid at Christmas. And now it is almost here and none of those emotions are present. I am actually dreading it. My church has a MD luncheon and on MD the moms stand and receive a gift. All I can think about are those that will not be standing and it breaks my heart. In my church alone there are 5 families that can not/do not have children. And this is in a congregation of less than 250 people. One is in their 70's and another in their 50's and though it saddens me that they never had children both have come to terms with the fact. One couple has only been married 5 months and newly diagnosed. I am sad for them as well, but they are still in denial and it is not bothering them yet. The other two couples are both hurting and that kills me. Neither are open about their struggles and do not discuss it, even though I have tried to offer support. And that is fine. Each person must deal with infertility in the way that they find best. But just because they do not talk about it does not erase the pain that they are feeling.
I would like to do something for these women on Mother's Day. Not only for the ladies attending my church but for two other ones that attend a neighboring church and are on staff of my hubby's ministry. Both of these ladies have had one or more miscarriages and are still ttc. I want them to know that they are loved, prayed for and acknowledged. Yet I do not want to cause them any extra pain. What are some ideas of what to do for them? Just a card? Maybe a card and candy? And should I mention something to the effect of "even though your babies are in heaven you are still a mother' to the ones that have babies in heaven? And if so, how can I word it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!