Our journey through infertility, failed adoptions and now parenthood through the miracle of embryo adoption/donation.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

deja vu

Once I had Maddie, I thought that I was in clear. How wrong I was!! For about a month now I have had people ask me when were going to start trying for baby number two. I didn't think much of it until it was followed with "Don't wait too long. You don't want too many years between them.". Then it hit me: This is all going to start again, isn't it?? All the personal questions. All the prying. All the advice. Well, that is just fan-freakin-tastic!! How come no one warned me of this?? After being infertile for over 10 years people finally began to pity me enough to quit asking so I was not prepared for this.

What really sucks is that people assume that my body figured it out once so it will again. Right? WRONG!!! Having a baby will not cure what is wrong with us. For some it might, but not us. But all of the fertile experts are going to tell me it will, I just know it. I am going to have to start explaining all of this again, aren't I? BLEH! This time things will be different though. It will not be as difficult as I do now have a baby. It will also be fun as I have lost my discretion. You wanna ask me a personal question?? Do ya?? Go for it! But they had best be prepared to hear my answers. "What? Have another baby? Sure! But we have to wait until the statute of limitations runs out for kidnapping this one first!". Or "Yeah, we want more but we used up all of our sperm and eggs on this one. Bummer! Hey, you wouldn't happen to have any extras we could borrow, do you?? It only takes one, right?". This time around I don't plan on being as nice. I am a veteran. I have paid my dues. So go ahead, make my day! Ask me! I dare ya!!! =D

10 comments:

  1. LOL! I love it! It never really does end does it?!?

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  2. I am totally over playing nice and practicing discretion. It started when my BIL was kind of being an ass so I went into detail about how I had a vaginal ultrasound on the second day of my period. Seeing him squirm gave me a sick little pleasure. I kind of sound demented, but it's my way of coping.

    www.brandysheaif.blogspot.com

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  3. Ugh, people are so frustrating sometimes! I can't believe you're already getting that question! Good for you, might as well have a little fun with them.

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  4. LOL!!! You had me rolling, that is too fun but sadly true!!! I know exactly what you mean. I have two beautiful adopted kiddos and it kills me when people make the comment when you gonna get another? Like it is sooo easy to just go to the store and pick out a baby! UGH, if they only knew! And now that I am pregnant, people are starting to say you better watch out after this one, you will probably get pregnant really easily! UM, doubt it, if you only knew what we have been through! UGH sorry about my rant but you are so right on the money!!! Thanks for this post:) I hope I can be as honest as you are with people-LOL!

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  5. Apparently after having a third you will get "your done aren't you I mean who has 3 kids in thie day and age?"

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  6. LOL! Good for you. People have no filter! I am very blunt with people when they ask me now. You know in some of the church circles it is taboo to get surgery.. But I have no problem telling them.. its all clip, snipped and burned off down there! ha ha! Stop freaking asking .. its none of your business is what I really wanted to say to them! But being blunt and sarcastic definitely gets the point across. People dont ask me anymore! ha ha!

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  7. After we adopted our son we got a lot of "I bet you will get pregnant now!" Ummmmm no... probably not, but thanks for thinking that was all that was wrong with me!

    People are stupid some times!

    I love your line about kidnapping... I may have to use that one! : )

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  8. Love it! People are so ignorant sometimes. I can't wait to hear about your "run ins" with people and your answers to their questions!

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  9. You go girl!! Tell them!
    I don't think the Q's will ever quit. I was talking to a fertile the other day and she said she now gets Q's on "are you done now since your getting older?". So, people are people, but I'm making sure I don't become one of them!!

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  10. I know, the inappropriate questions really do keep on coming! People always ask us if we want another soon and my answer from day one has been "Oh yeah, definitely." I usually just leave it at that, and so do they. But it also kind of hurts my feelings that people who know we adopted say "Are you starting the adoption process again soon?"--like they're assuming we CAN'T have bio kids. Well I can't, but they don't need to know about this whole donor egg plan ;) It's not like people only adopt because of IF, so I find that a little presumptuous, but oh well. I do wish people would be more considerate about quizzing others on their family building plans--there's not much that's more private than that!

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