Our journey through infertility, failed adoptions and now parenthood through the miracle of embryo adoption/donation.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Abortion is not just about the baby

January 22nd marks the anniversary of Roe V Wade. Honestly, I did not now that until I was reading a blog today and it prompted me to look up March For Life. It is a date that I should know. It is a date that changed our nation forever. I think that being infertile makes abortion a sore spot with me. I am pro-life. Always have been. Always will be. If you have read my blog at all you know this. However, I do not support some of the craziness out there. I do support harming abortion workers or doctors. I do not protest clinics or spout hatred to those entering abortion clinics. I am sure that if Jesus were here he would not participate in it either. And while I am pro-life I also support the life of the mother as well. I support a woman having the option to abort if her life is in jeopardy or if she has an ectopic pregnancy. What I do not support is abortion for those that are pregnant as a result of rape or incest. This is where many pro-lifers disagree and today this post is NOT to debate that issue. We can agree to disagree.

I have always been pro-life but once I became infertile I also became......negative towards those that found themselves in the position to need an abortion. I thought, seriously, how do you get pregnant when you don't want to? There are so many free resources out there for contraceptives. Many available in your public schools and even gas station bathrooms. I spouted the "give the baby up for adoption" rhetoric without thought or consideration to the repercussions of the decision. As I got older and and as the pain of infertility changed me I began to see that it was not all black and white. Yes, I believe that abortion is wrong, but no, I no longer believe that those considering it are horrible people. I also realized that, as a Christian, I have not done my part. I do not believe that any woman should be coerced into placing a child for adoption, to parent or to terminate. Yet I think that many of us staunchly PLers come across as though we do not care. We preach "don't abort" yet we provide no help, no resources, no support. It is reprehensible. I am at fault as well and am praying that I can find a way to volunteer in a crisis pregnancy center. I am not sure if I am ready for that, but I am at least willing to pray and consider it. At the very least I can donate baby items for those that do choose to parent and need help.

If you have a moment please stop over and read this blog post A Tragedy All Around . It prompted me to post this as well as challenged me to get involved. It is a very well written post from someone that not only talks about change but does something as well.


  1. This is a great post. I mention on my blog sometimes that I practice juvenile law, but have never actually got into what I actually do.

    Part of my job is representing parents whose chuldren are in foster care and are facing termination of their rights. Sometimes I struggle with defending parents who have deprived their children, but ultimately there is almost nothing I can do for them if they don't make the choice to improve themselves for the sake of their children.

    I try to think of it as guiding and counesling these parents to become worthy of parenting their children. Still sometimes it just makes me so mad that these women just keep getting pregnant over and over.

  2. I would love to do the same thing. I think giving them an infertility perspective would be good. If I'm going to have to go through all of this, I would at least like for something good to come out of it. You just never know where this path may lead.

  3. Beautiful post. :) And thanks for the shout out.


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