Our journey through infertility, failed adoptions and now parenthood through the miracle of embryo adoption/donation.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

six years have gone by....

Since I said good-bye to Abbie. For those unfamiliar with the story we were in the process of trying to adopt a baby girl, Abbie. We brought her home from the hospital when she was but 3 days old. She was a tiny thing at 6lb, 12oz. We loved her immediately, though I kept my heart reigned in a bit as the situation was tentative at best. (loooooong story!). This was January 2005 and on April 16th of that same year we drove 2 hours away to hand her over to a different family. One that would care for her until her mother was released from prison (7 years left on sentence, released when Abbie was 2 1/2). Handing her over, saying good-bye....it was one of the hardest things that I have ever done. Something that I never want to do again. We were able to visit her one last time that August when she was 8 months old. Now that Maddie is 8 months old I see similarities in them, things that they both do. What I remember most about that last visit was that Abbie came right to me, no hesitations. That was what I feared the most, that she would be afraid of me. But she wasn't. She even gave us both hugs and kisses. It is a memory that I will always treasure.

Though it was a difficult day to remember, Maddie eased some of that pain. It will never be completely gone but each year it gets less and less. Saturday I was not ready to talk about her but today I felt the need to acknowledge her and the day that she left us. I miss you and love you, little Abbie!!!

5 comments:

  1. Thinking of you Jessica.I can't imagine what you had to go through.I get emotional thinking about it.Hugs to you.Sounds like you have good memories.What a blessing Maddie is.:)

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  2. Thinking of you...that must've been so hard!!!

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  3. i remember reading your story long ago. my, how far you've come since then... and yet, the pain is still palpable.

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  4. I can't imagine the pain of giving up to someone else that baby you loved. I'm glad that she had you to take care of her.

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  5. I cannot imagine. That must have been so difficult for your family to go thru. But what a lucky little girl to have such love like that.

    Thinking of you,
    Elaine, lfca

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