Our journey through infertility, failed adoptions and now parenthood through the miracle of embryo adoption/donation.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

ICLW welcome

Welcome to my little blog! It has been a long time since I have participated in ICLW and I have missed it. I love meeting new people and look forward to reading some new blogs.

Since you are here I will tell you a bit about me. I am Jess and I am 36 years young. Hubby and I got married almost 16 years ago and began ttc right away. I had always suspected that I had endo so I was not surprised when nothing happened. What I was not prepared for was that hubby would have problems as well. At that time we decided to skip fertility treatments and go right to adoption. By 2005 we had had 2 failed adoptions, the last one with us losing the baby after we had her for 3 months, and my heart was broken. So we jumped into fertility treatments.

We had to undergo testing again and my endo was a lot worse. A lot!! And hubby went from low everything, to no. No count at all. From there our options were limited. We tried 4 rounds of IUI with donor sperm and it was a bust. So where do you go from there? IVF with donor sperm? And I might even have needed donor eggs (PCOS) as well. There was no way we could afford all of that so we thought it was over. Then we learned about embryos adoption/donation. It was an answer to prayer!!!

In 2009 we were matched with embryos from a local clinic and were successful on our first try!! Right after our 12th anniversary we gave birth to our miracle baby girl. In 2012 we started the process again and this time it was not nearly as easy. It took a full year, 2 canceled cycles, one BFN and a surgery but finally we got the news we were hoping for. We were pregnant again!! In 6 weeks we will be welcoming baby girl number two to our little family. We have two embryos left and will return for them next year around this time. That will be the end of our journey, no matter the outcome. I look forward to trying again and maybe adding one last baby to our family, but I also look forward to closing this very long chapter of our life and just enjoy life again.


  1. Yay!!! Happy to hear that after everything else you two found an answer to prayers through embryo adoption. I've been hearing more and more about people doing that over the last few years. We are just, JUST getting started with anything that'll lead to adoption. Supposed to get paperwork to fill out from DCFS sometime soon so we can start the whole process. =)

  2. Hi there -- I'm visiting from ICLW, and the first thing that struck me was the title of your blog. It's lovely, and it really captures how you've kept your heart open to ALL paths to motherhood, despite having so many difficulties on the way. Wishing you every happiness with your family!

  3. That's an incredible story. I'm happy for you and the family you're building against those odds!

  4. What a journey you've had! I honestly had never heard of embryo adoption before reading this and will have to learn more about it.

  5. Stopping by from ICLW. Congratulations on your baby girl and I wish you all the best as you navigate this path

  6. Stopping by from ICLW. I hope all goes well for you the next six weeks!

  7. I found you through Lara at Living Our Miracles. Thank you for sharing your story. I too have endo...and it sucks. Looking forward to following your blog.

  8. YAY! Please update us when your little miracle arrives!
    Thanks for sharing. I really enjoyed this post.
    Charis Johnson

  9. Hi there! I love your blog, and your story! I have three daughters, two through traditional domestic adoption and one through embryo adoption, so your story touched me especially! I am just starting the medical and transfer process again to use our remaining embryos and have decided to blog my way through the journey. Would you add me to your list of embryo adoption blogs? I also have a match making service for embryo donors and hopeful parents, I have matched quite a few people in the last three years, and I think blogging could be a great way to reach out to many more people. Anyway, I would love to have a few friends out there in adoption/infertility/cyberspace land!

    I would really appreciate if you could follow me :)
    Thank you!
    Samantha Fife


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