tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post8744491366595409432..comments2023-05-31T06:31:43.940-07:00Comments on A Greater Yes: Our Story of Embryo Adoption: bonding...continuedUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-61625352347727793482010-10-31T16:14:03.242-07:002010-10-31T16:14:03.242-07:00I think counseling is a great idea. If it turns o...I think counseling is a great idea. If it turns out that it is more than an issue just related to Abbie, what about someone skilled in adoption counseling? I only say that because if we ever do EA, I've thought my DH and I should go through adoption counseling just to wrap our minds around the whole thing. <br /><br />I can't imagine the trauma you went through when you had to give Abbie back :( How could that NOT leave any scars? Thank goodness we know who can heal those scars though.Libbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957887707439694944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-20048370933246572012010-10-31T15:44:04.401-07:002010-10-31T15:44:04.401-07:00You have been through so much. I think it is wonde...You have been through so much. I think it is wonderful you are sharing as a way for others to reach out. It is never good to keep things to ourselves when God gives us others to help us through it all. Many hugs!!!<br /><br />ShannonRoom for Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13689442916160755101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-4237684702880501232010-10-31T15:33:53.628-07:002010-10-31T15:33:53.628-07:00This is such a difficult thing you're going th...This is such a difficult thing you're going through!! But it is good that you've figured out what if holding you back!!<br /><br />Also, Maddie IS biologically yours. It's not your genes that made her, but while she was within you it was your body that influenced which genese would be activated. And she is made of up your body - all except that first cell or two. Have you read anything on epigenetics? I've just found out about it and been reading - here's one link that might be interesting for you. I don't know if it helps - maybe not, as it's not Maddie that's the issue but the loss of Abbie - which is just the most hauntingly awful thing. No wonder you're still hurting. :-( http://www.nurture.co.za/the-tricky-subject-of-disclosure/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-49713509002141296302010-10-31T15:26:36.476-07:002010-10-31T15:26:36.476-07:00I know the hurt of a disrupted adoption (or 2). It...I know the hurt of a disrupted adoption (or 2). It's a pain that is so difficult to get over. I took some of those hurts into our adoption with E. I was also finding myself calling E by a different name (my best friend's son's name). Those bonding techniques I said in the last post really made a difference for me. E also slept in our room until he was 3 months old (until him being in our room was actually keeping him up). You are doing a fantastic job! I know it feels frusterating, but what you are going through is not abnormal. :)Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10526997768171577201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-45020180467911185592010-10-31T08:06:57.254-07:002010-10-31T08:06:57.254-07:00Jess,
I just recently went back and read all about...Jess,<br />I just recently went back and read all about your experience with losing Abbie and I just could not believe the loss that you have experienced. You described it so well. It was as if I were watching a silent movie of you cutting a lock of her hair. I could picture you in those weeks leading up to her loss but only you, could have really felt that pain. I can't imagine what that fateful car ride was like. I cannot imagine. I am tearing up just thinking about you having to go through that. The one you experienced was a special kind of loss. You opened up your heart and home to this child and then she was taken away. I certainly don't know the whole story, but it seems that partly she was taken away by adults who were not acting in her best interest and that is just beyond words. How do you let go of the hurt and anger and forgive? How does your heart heal after something like that. I can tell you that you are a mom at heart because not everyone could have continued to pursue bringing a child home after that.<br /><br />I am thinking of you and I hope that you are working through this process and that your heart is able to open up a little more every day. Your precious Maddie is yours and yours alone and I believe that she will be holding your hand as you open your heart.Laciehttp://funnylittlepollywogs.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-6023048794116735472010-10-30T20:17:30.830-07:002010-10-30T20:17:30.830-07:00I'm so glad that you were able to figure out w...I'm so glad that you were able to figure out what was causing your detached feelings. I can only imagine what losing Abbie must have been like! It only seems natural that your subconscious would try to protect you now. One day at a time is the perfect mantra!Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17203780431443748216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-31281821739645915222010-10-30T13:36:51.894-07:002010-10-30T13:36:51.894-07:00I can't imagine how bad it must have hurt to l...I can't imagine how bad it must have hurt to lose Abbie. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Praying that Maddie helps to ease that pain for you.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10826913919163707391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-33241449893903782102010-10-30T13:31:01.833-07:002010-10-30T13:31:01.833-07:00Oh my goodness, I can't imagine the pain of lo...Oh my goodness, I can't imagine the pain of losing Abbie like that. Of course having a baby again is reopening those old wounds. I'm so sorry for all that you went through, but I know you have found your happy ending in Maddie and that you will feel more able to embrace that happiness in time. Your love for your daughter is clear in every post and that IS a strong & unbreakable bond!Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319707316191000140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-43644107610964279732010-10-30T12:07:33.545-07:002010-10-30T12:07:33.545-07:00Im so glad that God brought that all into your tho...Im so glad that God brought that all into your thoughts so you can continue to heal. Of course this will be such a hard time for you! But you hold that girl TIGHT and you tell her that her MOMMA loves her and she is YOURS forever!!! Over and over and over again!! Praying for you and so glad you had a good counselor to go to! I know easier said than done but just ENJOY that little girl. I cant believe mine is gonna be FOUR in a few weeks! It is gone in a blink!Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01486053694444872773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-27177965965870145412010-10-30T07:32:50.612-07:002010-10-30T07:32:50.612-07:00That must hurt TERRIBLY! Losing Abbie...That DOES ...That must hurt TERRIBLY! Losing Abbie...That DOES make sense. Praying for you. I will admit, your last post had me VERY WORRIED about you but God has obviously led you to a very clear explanation. I STILL have trouble believing Blakely is actually here and MINE forever. Very surreal! Thanks for sharing your heart!embieadoptmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00704065632782220134noreply@blogger.com