tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post8642827363358270362..comments2023-05-31T06:31:43.940-07:00Comments on A Greater Yes: Our Story of Embryo Adoption: To tell? Or not to tell?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-24272352544916017992011-10-04T09:52:57.619-07:002011-10-04T09:52:57.619-07:00This is a struggle for us to. It really is case=by...This is a struggle for us to. It really is case=by=case and you have to use your judgment. For me, we keep in mind that it is HER story to tell when it is her time, and she can tell it to whomever she wants to. I don't want to rob her of that. At the same time, it's a miracle I want to shout from the rooftops. So, you have to work to balance those things. You don't want to act ashamed of this blessing, but you also don't want to make her the object of judgment.Britneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13056588171258820034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-69258671440409098462011-10-03T20:43:10.714-07:002011-10-03T20:43:10.714-07:00I struggle with this too. Our embryo donated baby...I struggle with this too. Our embryo donated baby girl is almost a year now. All our family and close friends know her origins but we get a lot of comments about how different her and her brother look (he is our bioligical child thru IVF). And we also want to make sure she is not defined by her origins yet knows them and knows how wonderful and special that is. So...when people ask who she looks like I just say she looks like herself. My sister and I were night and day as children (she blond, me brunette...just like my children) so sometimes I say they are just like me and my sister...complete opposites...but mostly...I just tell the truth. I say we used donor material so her genes are not ours. That either elicits another question and I can happily share the glory of embryo adoption or it shuts them right up! It depends on if I am in the mood to be an educator or not. Now that she is older...most of the talk about her origins has faded and no one really brings it up anymore...she is looking more and more like me everyday (sooo strange I tell you)...and now she is just Genevieve and we all love her just for that.kdactylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02123983421783902463noreply@blogger.com