tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post5096558925370160808..comments2023-05-31T06:31:43.940-07:00Comments on A Greater Yes: Our Story of Embryo Adoption: Different set of rules for infertiles??Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-1534747548075776082010-10-13T20:55:31.851-07:002010-10-13T20:55:31.851-07:00My wife and I still hear comments like this after ...My wife and I still hear comments like this after 8 years. There are just no social graces for what to say to people during infertility so I guess we can't expect much difference when we become 'after infertility parents.' I used to get into it with friends/relatives when my wife was just too tired to deal with the BS...they seemed to forget that maybe we were EXTRA tired because the journey was a little more arduous to get to the parenthood days. But I realized I was using up energy that was better spent enjoying the miracle of finally having our bundle of joy. You've more than earned every grumpy, irritated, exhausted parent stressed moment you have coming!! :)Dennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13614143076400340041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-65506162116186052062010-10-11T10:38:29.848-07:002010-10-11T10:38:29.848-07:00I hear ya! It's like no matter what us inferti...I hear ya! It's like no matter what us infertiles can't seemed to be like "normal moms" when that is all we really are. I hope that things get better- and hey at least you can vent on your blog:)happymomof4https://www.blogger.com/profile/13774686365582800301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-303225401599397562010-10-11T07:34:45.041-07:002010-10-11T07:34:45.041-07:00Wow, really? That is so unfair that people say th...Wow, really? That is so unfair that people say that to you!! Never ever would I say that to anyone! People suck and deserve a punch in the mouth for that comment.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14827590692827778824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-17608557996831361002010-10-10T20:36:19.381-07:002010-10-10T20:36:19.381-07:00I hope that whenever anyone says that to you, you ...I hope that whenever anyone says that to you, you rip them a new one. You can always blame it on sleep deprivation later. :D <br /><br />I completely agree. NO ONE has the right to tell you that you deserve to be sleep deprived, frustrated, and feeling unhuman because you were an infertile who fought so hard to become a mother. I can't even put into words how angry it makes me to think anyone has said that to you. I just want to go slap some faces with you.<br /><br />Grrr!<br /><br />Just remember, it gets easier as the baby gets older. Cling to that thought because some days, it might be the only thought that helps you make it through.<br /><br />*BIG hugs*Chellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06387359193986785194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-6855425397439914392010-10-10T20:33:20.092-07:002010-10-10T20:33:20.092-07:00People with there 'well intended' advice d...People with there 'well intended' advice drive me nuts! If I heard "this is what you wanted and prayed for for so long...." once, I've heard it a million times. Each month is a whole new 'issue' to learn through...my son is about to be 4 and I still hear it. <br />If you can, just put them out of your mind and don't ever take what they say to heart. If you do, you will drown yourself in guilt that is completely unnecessary! Believe me, you will have enough of your own 'mother's guilt' without the help of anyone...lol!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-76120397965600519762010-10-10T17:50:55.078-07:002010-10-10T17:50:55.078-07:00You are SO right. I try not to complain ever beca...You are SO right. I try not to complain ever because I know that I would trash the person making the "innocent" comment, but there are times where I'd love to just let it out sometimes.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-90010414791844361822010-10-10T14:02:50.368-07:002010-10-10T14:02:50.368-07:00I think it would be great for you to have a pre-re...I think it would be great for you to have a pre-rehearsed response. Something like, "Of course I wanted MADDIE. I love her with all of my heart. But I am human and newborns can be frustrating and exhausting, wouldn't you agree?"<br /><br />It might be empowering to let them know that their response to you is hurtful without being purposely stinging to them, we do want to keep your June Cleaver status, don't we?Laciehttp://funnylittlepollywogs.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-58992173145915875032010-10-10T12:40:53.867-07:002010-10-10T12:40:53.867-07:00I think those frustrated feelings are experienced ...I think those frustrated feelings are experienced by mothers the world over and you absolutely have a right to feel them. Sorry others are making you feel otherwise, as you said you are still human and just like everyone else have needs, sleep being one of those. Hope things calm down a bit for you soon and you're able to get a bit more sleep & enjoy the memories you're making with your daughter. And as for those judgmental fertile types, give it to them girl:)rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5982682332312205751.post-67985624011690852792010-10-10T12:32:44.138-07:002010-10-10T12:32:44.138-07:00You go girl! =)You go girl! =)Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10826913919163707391noreply@blogger.com